Late Saturday night, over too much Coke (not coke), chocolate, and late night TV, the conversation turned to sex, and specifically, how often they have it. All four women are married, and have been for over15 years, so none of them are in the honeymoon stage. Several weeks ago, and some other ‘girls only’ event, Jennifer, said that she gives her husband sex “when ever he wants it,” and Keri agreed, claiming that John gets it ever time he asks.
My honey didn’t believe it for a minute, since she turns me down all the time, but they stuck to their guns and claimed that they never told their husbands “No”. As the conversation returned to the topic this past weekend, my wife got them to clarify what they meant.
Keri said, “My husband knows when not to ask.” When asked to explain, she said, “John knows when not to ask, because he knows that certain things have to be in place.”
“Like what” my wife asked.
“It’s a long list,” Keri said, “The laundry has to be done, it has to be before 11:00 pm, I had to have had a good day, the kids had to be asleep (not just in bed, but asleep, and they have three), the bills have to be paid, the living room has to be straightened, lunches need to be made, I’m not on my period, I’m not too tired, I’m not irritated with him, and I have to be in a good mood.”
The other two women agreed, and they all gave their own version of the list, including “It’s been more than 3 days since the last time” and “It has to be the right time of the month.”
My wife, who, admittedly, has her version of the list, asked how their husbands felt about the frequency of their sex. All three women stated without hesitation, that their husbands are fine with it, and have no complaints.
When I heard that my head almost exploded, and I told my wife that none of their husbands were happy. I said that the husbands had stopped asking for sex because of “the list” that denied them sex before they even asked for it. I said that they had been turned down, rejected, dismissed so many times, that they no longer asked.
My wife knows that I want sex much more frequently than we have it, we discuss it all the time, but she didn’t believe me when I stated, “with 100% confidence” that her friend’s husband were unhappy, desperately lonely for more intimacy with their wives, and tired of “the list.”
So, dear readers (all 4 of you) what do you think?
Ladies – Do you have a list and what’s on it?
Men – Have you stopped asking for sex because of “the list”?
I’d love to hear your feedback.