This is a longer response to HyperSexualGirl's post about a young woman seeking to lose her virginity. I thought my response was getting too long for her comments section, so you really have to read her posts to have this make any sense. And, BTW, her blog is fantastic, I highly recommend it.
Read part 1 first, and then part two for the whole story.
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Wow, this is quite a story. But I'm not sure if this is really a happy ending yet or not.
Let by cynical for just a minute.
A younger girl (20) seeks out an older man (40?) to "awaken her sexuality." Sounds great.
She sees a tender, patient, handsome guy who, after a few dates, makes sweet monkey love to her. She is smitten, and begins the process of "coupledom".
Reverse the scenario.
Older man seeks vulnerable young woman for sex and social servitude. Unable to maintain relationships with women his own age, he seeks out women in need of a father figure and, to his amazement, finds a girl seeking the same.
After being patient for, what, 2 weeks, he take her virginity, claims her heart, and brings her in to a relationship where he is in control, he is the boss, and she, unaware of the alternatives, is bound to him as he becomes more and more controlling, and eventually abusive as she realizes her mistake, and desires to date men who won't need adult diapers before she finishes college.
Cynical? Yes. But, I'm seeing that happen with my niece and sister-in-law right now. Both married older men who wanted malleable young trophy wives who would worship and adore with little in return.
Both women are becoming progressively more miserable as they realize how little they get out of the relationship and how nice it would be to love someone their own age.
One of them spends all of his money remodeling "his" house, though they have been together for 7 years. Her car is dying, his is new, he's getting a new BBQ patio, she didn't get her sewing room, she scrambles around the house after two kids, he calls out from the dinner table, "Can you get me some more milk" and hold up his empty glass like from frikin' noble. She's changing a diaper and he's 4 feet from the fridge, and he sits there like a lump.
The other one is no better. He married her, 11 years his junior, because she had a smokin' hot figure, could dance, and because she made him look good at corporate events. She upgraded his wardrobe, hairstyle, taste in cars, everything. Now, with her considerable help, his business is taking off and his time is spent at the office, and she feels abandoned in her own home.
He doesn't let her socialize with women her own age, she is to stay at home with their baby, to watch and protect the little prince at all times, and he has even moved out of the bedroom because the baby is still nursing and he doesn't want to be woken up in the middle of the night to help.
I hope the girl from the story is happy 6 months from now....
3 comments:
What a bleak picture you paint.
it's a bleak world in which we live.
I guess this just hit a nerve because I see it happening in my own extended family.
I really am a romantic at heart and I hope that the girl from her story ends up deliriously happy, sexually fulfilled, and delighted with each and every orgasm this guy gives her. Really, I do.
I don't see what you write as an age differense issue per se, it's about dominance and abuse of position in the relationship. Age is secondary.
The problem with having a relationship with an older guy doesn't show until many years later on. When I was younger I didn't think it would be as difficult as it is at times, "love concuers all". Reality is that he's older and his age is showing more and more each day. I have no regrets at all but he has almost dies for me a couple of times and that makes reality suck. No matter how I turn it the odds are that he'll die dacades before me.
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